How to Have a Stress Free Wedding
This is been a post I've been meaning to write for AWHILE because I feel really passionate about it! Your wedding day should be the best day ever and to me that means enjoying every second and not stressing out about anything! So here are some super tangible tips that I've learned from all the weddings I've been to about how to have a stress free day!!
1. Hire a coordinator
I know it seems like a good way to save some money, especially if you've planned the whole thing on your own. But a day of coordinator can be such an angel when it comes to things you don't want to worry about on your wedding day, like communicating with vendors to make sure everyone is where they need to be. And so many things you might not even realize would be an issue! Things like, keeping the cards and gifts safe, taking centerpieces off the tables if you want to keep them (apparently it's a thing where guests think they can just take the centerpieces?), getting everyone lined up for your send off (and then letting you know when it's time to run through). Hiring someone who knows exactly what's going to happen before it happens is invaluable!! And you don't realize how much you need one until you don't have one. You should be enjoying your day and not stressing over little things.
2. Leave room in your timeline
This is probably my number 1 tip!!! Think it will take 2 hours to get ready? Give your self 2 and half hours. Think it will take 30 minutes for family pictures? Give yourself 45 minutes. It's so hard to just enjoy the moment when someone is saying "take photos really fast, ceremony starting in 15 minutes"! Leaving extra room gives you the time to really enjoy yourself! I've never once had a bride say "dang, I wish I didn't have all this extra time..". If you get done with anything early, we can easily fill it photos!!! But chances are something will come up and you’ll be glad you have extra time.
3. Do what you want
I see so often couples getting stressed out trying to make everyone else happy, but it's your day!! It is impossible to make everyone happy, so you have to focus on what you want. Mom wants roses, aunt wants your niece in the wedding party, cousin wants gluten free cake. The list will never end so you should probably just ignore them all. Is this too harsh?? Obviously use your judgement, just remember it's YOUR day, not theirs :)
4. Take out things that don't speak to you
Let me start out by saying if you are excited about everything, you should 100% do everything! But if you're not, you don't have to do a bouquet toss, or a father-daughter dance, or cake cutting, or the shoe game. Each of these things adds one more element of having to be somewhere at a certain time which can add stress. There is nothing wrong with any of these things if they are going to be fun and memorable for you! But I've been to weddings where the couple acts like it's a chore to do them and this is a reminder just because it’s traditional, doesn’t mean you have to do them if you don’t want to!
5. Have a plan with family photos
Until you get married it doesn’t seem possible, but it’s true: Family photos are one of the most stressful parts of the day. Right after your wedding all your friends and family just want to come up to you and hug you and celebrate you, but usually there's a pretty small window for family photos
I have been to far too many wedding where the bride and groom are kind of winging it with who's in which photo. They might have thought "bride's extended family", but who exactly is in that photo? Do you want the bride and groom in it or just the bride? And then you see Uncle Bob is in it, so Aunt Sally needs to be in it, but where is she?! You should think about all the different combos you want ahead of time (I send out a questionnaire to help with this process) and exactly who is in that photo.
And make sure you talk to your future spouse about this process too! I did a wedding recently where once we got to extended family, the groom said "oh, we'll get those during the reception!" Sorry, but this doesn't work. If you have photos that aren't that important to you, it's fine to have this mind set. But the exact groupings of your family members don't just magically appear, it takes some work to group them up. So saying this almost guaratees you won't get these photos. If they're important to you, we'll make it a priority to get them done, just make sure you're both on the same page. And if they're not that important to you, maybe think about whether or not you really want them. Each photo does take time, so thinking we might as well get every possible combo will take a toll on you!
Those are my tips!!! In my experience these are the easiest things you can do to eliminate tons of stress!! My last piece of advice would just be mindset! If you go into the day knowing that you can no longer change anything and just roll with the punches, you will enjoy your day so much more! Nothing will ever go exactly as planned, but no matter what happens, it can still be super fun and stress free!!!
If you have any other tips feel free to share them below!!!